Why do folks try so hard? I've never really understood that and while I'm sure I've been guilty of the same thing in the past, I no longer understand it. Why try so hard to portray yourself as someone you're not? Why not just be you?
I think this comes across easily among friends, but it certainly comes across in the public eye. Both Christina Aguilera and Rihanna have new albums they are promoting and both are choosing the most desperate ways of doing so. Rather than creating a great album with music people want to listen to over and over again, they are creating forgettable and mediocre (at best) songs and stripping down to nothing on magazine and album covers. Why though?
They'd argue that it's female empowerment and because they are choosing to expose their body, they are in control. But the real issue here is the fact that they are relentlessly grasping for any sort of press they can get. The days of shocking magazine covers have come and gone and it would behoove them both to take that into account. Especially Aguilera. She was a part of that first wave of shock-journalism and she should have grown out of it by now.
Did Adele have to get naked on the cover of a magazine to have big first-week album sales? No. She stood there, fully clothed, and sang good songs that everyone could relate to. Remember Shania Twain's album "Come On Over?" It's the best-selling female album of all time and it's an album of love songs everyone can relate to. The success of Taylor Swift? Songs everyone can relate to. Elvis, Celine, old-school Mariah...the same. But Christina continues to sing about how she's under siege and how everyone needs to back off.
When it comes to real people though, I don't understand why being ourselves isn't good enough. It's not that we don't all have work to do to become the best possible version of ourselves. We all do. But no one was ever truly fulfilled while being busy playing catch-up with others.
Be you. Don't try so hard to be someone you're not. We might not all sell 21 million albums, but we will sell ourselves short by not being true to ourselves.